10 Ways to Keep the Memory of Your Loved One Alive

After the loss of my dad, I remember thinking to myself how I might start to lose his memory; how one day I might no longer be able to remember his voice, or what he smelled like.

These are things that go through one’s mind after losing a loved one. They want nothing more than to be able to keep their loved one “alive” through memories.

Here are 10 ways that have helped me to keep my loved one’s memory alive:


1. Share stories of your loved one with a close friend or family member.

Talking about your loved one can both be difficult and relieving at the same time. It can help you to overcome some of your grief by being able to express your feelings about your loved ones. It can also be a good way for a friend or family member to get to know your loved one better if they did not know them as well or at all.

Sometimes, laughs and smiles can come from sharing other stories. I love when people come up to me and share their stories with me about my mom or dad, because I feel like I learn something new about them with each new story.


2. Practice a hobby that you and your loved one used to do together.

This can be such a great way to help their memory live on. If you both loved to paint, then you should continue to paint. If it is something that makes you happy, then by doing it, you are making your loved one proud. You should never stop doing something that you love because you think that it is not fair that your loved one is no longer here to experience it with you. By continuing to do the things that you all loved to do together, it can help you cope with their loss as well.

Another take on this is to take up a new hobby that they loved, but you never tried with them. It can be a great way for you to step out of your comfort zone and learn a new thing, while keeping their memory alive. My mother was pregnant with my little brother when my dad passed away, so my brother never got to meet my dad. He knew how much my dad loved to hunt, though, so he has taken up hunting, to feel close to my dad. His memory is able to live on through my little brother, even though he never got the chance to meet him.

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3. “Talk” to your loved one.

This one might seem odd at first, but it can be such a relief to feel like they’re still around to listen to you. Whenever I feel scared about the next step I should take in life, I make sure to close my eyes and just talk (in my head or out loud) to my parents. I ask for their guidance and their advice in what next steps I should take. It always gives me a sense of peace to be able to “feel” as if they are still there listening.


4. Plant a flower or tree in their honor.

I did this in high school with my counselor, in honor of my mom and dad dying. It was a really neat way to establish a memorial where I could always remember them. It also was a great way to watch this flower blossom or tree grow, because it felt like a symbol of my grief, showing me that this grief will change and develop with time. If I give myself the time needed, I will be able to regain my life again, and learn to live without my loved one’s constant presence. There will always be days that I miss my loved ones, and it will never be the same without them, but our grief can help us blossom and change into something beautiful.


5. Write in a journal about your experiences with them.

Journaling is a great way, in general, to help you get all your thoughts out in the open. It allows you to clear your head of any additional clutter. Journaling is a great way to keep track of things about your loved one that you do not want to forget. It is something that you can look back on, years to come, and remember all of the things your loved one used to enjoy.

Journaling about them in general can also help your grieving process. It can make you feel so much better to get all of your thoughts out, so you can leave your thoughts on that page and move on with your life.


6. Join a support group.

When you find other like-minded individuals that can understand what you are going through, it can help you open up about your loved one. I know it has always been difficult for me to speak about my loved ones to certain family members, because I was nervous that it might open wounds that they don’t want to be opened. By telling your story of your loved one to others that did not know them, it can lift a huge weight off of your shoulders and can also help these people see how truly wonderful your deceased loved one was.

Through this support group, you can, in turn, learn that it is okay to share memories about your loved one without crying every time. Reliving those happy memories shouldn’t always feel like a hardship, but instead a moment to remember, and smile upon.


7. Celebrate their birthday or favorite holiday in their honor.

One way to honor them is by celebrating their birthday every year. You can still enjoy their favorite traditions around their birthday to remember them in a positive way. Another way is to celebrate their favorite holiday in their honor. I knew someone that passed away, and their favorite holiday was 4th of July. Because of this, His family always sets off a firework in his honor every year. Remember, just because your loved one is no longer there, does not mean that you should stop celebrating them! This is how we heal. We heal by remembering them in a good light, and all of the fun memories we used to have with this person.

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8. Get involved with an organization that your loved one was passionate about.

This could be anything from an organization that was very near to your loved one’s heart, or it could be an organization that you join in honor of them. For example, if your loved one died from cancer, you could donate your time at a hospital in the cancer wing, or donate in their honor to the American Cancer Society.

If you choose an organization that your loved one was passionate about, it can also sometimes change your viewpoint on this person. You might better understand this person through the work that they did,. Or through stories that others tell you who volunteered with your loved one! By choosing to help their legacy live on by continuing to do something they were passionate about can truly be such a reward.


9. Create a memory box or scrapbook.

Creating a memory box or scrapbook can definitely make certain memories come flooding back. This can be an emotional journey if you choose to honor them in this way, but it can also be a beautiful one. By creating this, it gives you access to something that you can always cherish, and share with others to show how special your loved one truly was.

10. Do a random act of kindness in their honor.

I love this one, because I am always constantly trying to think of ways to make my parents proud of me. Think back to mannerisms that your loved one used to always portray. Did they always hold the door open for the person behind them? Did they sometimes pay for the person’s coffee behind them in the drive thru line? These can be simple, yet glorifying ways to remember your loved ones. Each time you complete this act of kindness, you will be helping their memory live on through the good that you do.

There are so many different ways to keep your loved one’s memory alive. Some might be more difficult than others, and some might not make sense for your loved one. At the end of the day, this is to help you cope with them being gone, and for you to find a way that makes sense to you to keep their memory alive.

Written by Brittany Husong




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